Psychotherapy is a process of self discovery and self realisation. It requires the commitment and energy of both client and therapist. Psychotherapy is a process where the client meets every week over an extended period of time. It takes time to trust and open up to the process. When trust is fully established and the client's rigidity can be softened then the aspects or parts of the client's personality can emerge, or be challenged and there lessen their defensive or protective nature. During the process feelings might emerge, repressed experiences can arise, core beliefs about self and how they impact, relationship dynamics come to the fore. These relationship dynamics can be also experienced between client and therapists as how we relate in the outside world will be how we relate in the therapeutic space. We have the opportunity to look at these in a supported and safe space. a beautiful quote from Ron Kurtz founder of Hakomi psychotherapy says it beautifully "Therapy is first about discovering. Its about who you are and about what your deepest emotional attitudes are. Its not just about who you think you are. Its not opinion. Its not something you can know with the intellect. Its about who you are in the very heart of yourself. That's the flavour of psychotherapy, discovering yourself, discovering your real attitudes toward the most important pieces of your life"
“Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It's a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others". Pena Chodron.