Relationship Issues for Individuals
Our relationships are the bedrock to our lives and well-being and yet can cause us so much stress and confusion. Clients ask "why do all my friends leave me"or "why are my husband and I always fighting" and "why can I not meet a nice guy rather than the cold and negative ones". Relationships are the foundation of who we are and although they are a normal part of life they also present on-going and repeating difficulties. In some cases forming or maintaining healthy long term relationships prove stressful and problematic for some people.
And one asks Why?
The answer lies in our past and our experience in our family of origin. We learn to relate to others as a result of our family up-bring and experience. This experience impacts on all aspects of our lives. Our first relationship with our parents becomes the blueprint for all other relationships on a conscious and unconscious level. If conflict and fighting, rigidity and obedience, manipulation and emotional abuse, addictions or abuse were part of a child's daily life then these will without doubt impact on how they relate to others. If children experienced rejection, repeatedly criticised, anger, being ignored or humiliated in their family than this can affect how they are in the future relationships. They might avoid intimate relationships in order to protect themselves from more pain and trauma or may be constantly trying unsuccessfully to please their emotionally absent partner to name just two ways of relating to another.
Counselling can help someone that is having difficulties with their relationship, or forming relationship or maintaining them. This type of counselling is different to couples counselling which would need to take place with a qualified couples counsellor.
How can therapy help?
The aim of counselling is to help you develop a better relationship with yourself and strengthen your feelings of self worth and confidence.
Past relationships will be explored and your family history will be delved into.
Understanding about personal boundaries will be a part of the therapeutic work. Learning to be assertive in relationships and directly communicating your needs and emotions to your others.
And one asks Why?
The answer lies in our past and our experience in our family of origin. We learn to relate to others as a result of our family up-bring and experience. This experience impacts on all aspects of our lives. Our first relationship with our parents becomes the blueprint for all other relationships on a conscious and unconscious level. If conflict and fighting, rigidity and obedience, manipulation and emotional abuse, addictions or abuse were part of a child's daily life then these will without doubt impact on how they relate to others. If children experienced rejection, repeatedly criticised, anger, being ignored or humiliated in their family than this can affect how they are in the future relationships. They might avoid intimate relationships in order to protect themselves from more pain and trauma or may be constantly trying unsuccessfully to please their emotionally absent partner to name just two ways of relating to another.
Counselling can help someone that is having difficulties with their relationship, or forming relationship or maintaining them. This type of counselling is different to couples counselling which would need to take place with a qualified couples counsellor.
How can therapy help?
The aim of counselling is to help you develop a better relationship with yourself and strengthen your feelings of self worth and confidence.
Past relationships will be explored and your family history will be delved into.
Understanding about personal boundaries will be a part of the therapeutic work. Learning to be assertive in relationships and directly communicating your needs and emotions to your others.